Couples Therapy: Gottman Method
Are you and your spouse missing each other? Are your attempts to connect failing? You are not alone in your desire for a better marriage. I would enjoy working with you. We will collaborate to strengthen your relationship bond while gaining understanding of each individual needs.
While working with couples, my hope is to help you regain your connection. Most couples have perpetual problems, long standing things that no amount of communication is resolving. With the tools in this method I will help you learn ways to talk to each other about conflict and build connections.
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Along with treating relationship distress, my specialties in couples work include recovering after an affair, healing from the effects of addiction, trauma and other emotional problems, preparing your marriage for success.
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I offer sessions in person in my office in Yreka, California and Ashland, Oregon. ​I also offer HIPAA compliant telehealth couples therapy. Surprisingly, it works quite well. You are able to receive therapy from the safety of your home. I encourage you to try it if your relationship is having difficulty. I can provide this if you and your partner are in California or Oregon at the time of visit.
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What to expect once you book a session:
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Assessment is a big part of Gottman method. When you book a session I will send you a relationship checkup for each of you to fill out separately, this is an important step for assessing your relationship and will help to guild the therapy. This will cost $39 per couple, paid directly to the Gottman institute. I will need an email address for each person to have the invite sent.
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The first face to face session includes everyone in the couple, I will ask a serious of questions to get to know you as a couple and what brings you to therapy.
Then next sessions is each person separately for 50 minutes. As a couples therapist I do not keep secrets, unless it is a safety concern. This individual session helps to assess how your history is impacting your current relationship.
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The third session is both people coming to session again, this is the final assessment stage. I will give you feedback based on your assessment and give you each a copy of the combined scores. We will work together to set goals for treatment.
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The sessions after the assessment are unique to each couple based on the assessment outcomes.
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$300 per 50 min session, some insurance is accepted.
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Couples Intensive
Couples Intensive Therapy is another great option. Often it is difficult to have everyone’s schedule line up in order to make time for weekly sessions. Intensives are a great way to work through some specific conflicts or concerns in a shorter time.
5 hour Couples Intensive:
The shortest intensive for a couple is a 5 hour intensive, this can be in one of my offices, or virtual. This is a good option for a couple wanting pre marriage help, or having a conflict or concern that will not need in-depth work. This option will cover a full assessment for the couple and some meaningful work around the concern they have. Some examples include, finances, pre marriage counseling, how to resolve conflicts, rebuilding connection. This option is $1600 during the week and $1750 on a weekend.
8 hour Couples Intensive:
The next option for couples intensive is 8 hours. This will include the assessment, and give more opportunity to go deeper. This would be beneficial for couples that are experiencing some flooding, According to John Gottman, "flooding" refers to a physiological state of feeling overwhelmed and physically aroused during conflict, essentially triggering a "fight or flight" response where a person loses the ability to think clearly and rationally, often leading to defensive behaviors or shutting down in a relationship due to feeling attacked or threatened; it's characterized by increased heart rate, rapid breathing, and a sense of being unable to engage productively in the conversation. When this is the case more interventions are needed to help with calming and relaxing. This is a good option for couples with a single concern that have not been able to get through on their own, this includes children, finances, and ideas about rolls. This is also a good option for a couple with a new life change, such as having a new baby or changing jobs. This option is $2500 during the week and $2800 over a weekend.
15 hour Couples Intensive:
The longest intensive for couples is 15 hours. This will include the assessment as well as more opportunity to heal deep wounds. This is a good option for couples who have experienced grief and trauma in the marriage, who want to work through it. Many couples find going weekly for those kinds of incidents difficult. Opening and closing the wound weekly. It can be really helpful to do the deep dive and work together to rebuild trust, set up new boundaries, identify hurts, attune to each other. This is a good option for affair recovery and other betrayals. This option is $4500, during the week or weekend. If emergency session, there is an extra fee involved.
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Each of my intensives includes 90 minute pre assessment to get clear on our goals for the intensive and go over any paperwork. They also include a 90 minute post assessment usually conducted a few weeks after to check in and refresh on any materials, and give referrals if needed.
To book an intensive a 50% deposit is required, there is no refund available for the deposit. If you cancel at least 7 days before your intensive the remaining balance will not be charged. I do not accept insurance for this service, I can accept credit, debit, check or cash.
The longer intensive is available anywhere in California or Oregon, depending on location there may be more fees involved.